It happens to be one of those days when I have too much on my plate and nothing seems to be moving at all. I woke up with a sore throat this morning and a slight touch of feverishness. I admit I did fantasise about curling up with a book and reading all day. But, of course, it wasn’t meant to be! Continue reading
Good Morning! How are you doing this Monday morning?
A little thought for myself and for everyone who is reading this today, as we begin another busy week ahead. I’ve had a wonderful weekend and have actually had a good time catching up with a friend who came visiting after almost a year. Continue reading
This has been a month of work, rest, travel and quality time with the families and the parents. Even though I’m always grateful for all the good times, there has also been a lot that’s been weighing on my mind, over the past few weeks. Continue reading
Sometimes, life lessons can come from the most unlikely places. It is strange now when I think of it how as an after-thought so many nuggets of wisdom have come to me in life, those which I cherish and pass on to my son who is going to be thirteen soon. Continue reading
Life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
It’s a thought that came to my mind this morning while I was about to mark a date in my diary to see my homeopath. Continue reading
There are days when we wake up feeling nothing is right with what we do, say or think. We are unhappy being who we are and tend to compare ourselves with everyone else. If we look into the mirror, we see too many flaws and remember too many past wounds and failings to love ourselves unconditionally. In fact, it leads us down a spiraling course of negativity.
Do you have days like that? Continue reading
We may not always realise how often we take things for granted. Things like, freedom, respect and dignity for instance, that forms the foundation of any healthy relationship. It is sad that every day, hundreds of women all over the world grapple with domestic abuse day after day, year after year, relentlessly fighting their lonely battles, sometimes, even paying for it with their lives. Continue reading
Life is strange and often surprises us when we least expect it. After going through a surgery last year, I was hoping my life was going to change for the better. Instead, after months of pain, it took me on a downward spiral, leaving me with a series of health conditions that I struggled to cope with. I never complained, keeping it all bottled up inside me. Towards the beginning of this year, unable to get my energy levels or my physical fitness back, I began to sink into a state of depression. Continue reading
Last week was quite an eventful one for most of us. There would be few who wouldn’t have been affected by what was happening in the country or around the world. The uncertainty of things to come, and the inability to deal with changes that have been thrust upon us leaving us disappointed and disillusioned, depending on which side of the fence we find ourselves in. But my belief is, no matter what other people say or do or even how they try to make us feel, we have the power to choose the way we look at situations and, importantly, how we react to them.
Let us not carry forward our inner struggles and baggage from the past but try and pave the way for positivity and inner peace. Today, I want to share an issue a lot of us face when we are trying to make our lives more positive – the toxic people in our lives who fill our space with negativity. It may not always be possible to cut these people totally out of our lives, because we may be living in close proximity to them every day. Their harsh words prick us and disturb our equilibrium. We feel unsettled. Recently, I came across a beautiful story from the Buddha’s life which explains what we should do when faced with such a situation.
Once, when Buddha was speaking to a group of his followers, a man came and spoke to him very rudely, challenging his wisdom and charging him with a barrage of false accusations. While the followers were clearly upset, the Buddha remained calm and unruffled. The man got even further irritated when he found that his words had no effect on the Buddha. So, he came up to him and asked him- “It seems that my words don’t have any affect on you. Why are you so quiet?”. This time, the Buddha spoke. He said, “When a rich man offers money to a roadside beggar and the beggar refuses to accept it, who does the money stay with?”. “Why, the rich man, of course”. The Buddha then explained. “So, is it with your words. I refuse to accept your words, so they mean nothing to me. I do not get upset by what does not belong to me. Simple.”
What an invaluable life lesson for us all! As I grow older I realize that I should have practiced this thought a long time ago. It would have saved me from many a heartbreak. Today, I know, why it is important to remind ourselves that we alone can control how we feel. The more we value ourselves, our thoughts, and emotions, the less someone else can control and manipulate us to feel a certain way. This thought makes me feel empowered today and I pray you do too. Let focus and positivity walk alongside us and continue to guide us.
So, tell me how do you cope when you find another person dragging you down into the pool of negativity? How do you overcome the impact of rude, unkind words from people close to you who you may not be able to avoid in your everyday life?
A little break can often do a lot of good, as I just discovered, having returned from a short trip to the beautiful backwaters of Kerala. One might argue that a new place and new surroundings are a great way to unwind anyway, but what I found out was that more than anything, it was actually getting away from our daily routine which made the real difference. It was a last minute decision to get away from the city’s chaos mainly to escape the noise and the pollution of Diwali, but it is amazing how even a short 3-day break can work wonders for our mind, body and soul. Continue reading